Today is 7 Fucking Y...

Today marks 7 years since Art died. I woke up this morning, went looking for photos and thought to myself “I need to find a more recent photo of him.” And then was like “You idiot, there are no more RECENT photos.” I laughed out loud. His death is still so fucking hard...

Work Funerals: To Go...

      Recently a co-worker’s father died.  The CEO sent an email suggesting that employees attend the funeral to show our support for our co-worker. He even arranged for a shuttle. I’m glad he did because, without it, I don’t think many would have attended. Let’s face it....

The Best Gift I Ever Wrecked Mar06

The Best Gift I Ever...

  I broke this box. Well, I didn’t actually break it but I got careless where I put it. The ‘m’ in ‘Kim’ came off and then the paper bow ripped. I’ve had this box since April 29, 2009, 13 days after Art died. It was given to me by one of his students. The inscription reads:...

Protected: Mugalian ...

Welcome to the Mugalian Support Page I’m Kim Hamer, the creator of 100 Acts of Love and the person who wants to help you help Steve and the kids. Tamara taught my son in forth grade when my husband had cancer the first time and I’m a cancer widow like Steve.  My husband died from...

Help Ideas in the Ma...

  Help came in the mail today! I received one of those coupon packets full of some really great help ideas!  That was a surprise. It contained five different support ideas you can use for your friend dealing with sudden death or grief and loss or cancer or …  you get the idea. 1. House...

6 Cancer Help Hacks ...

Helping a friend with cancer (or dealing with loss) is really not THAT hard.  Here are a few cancer helping hacks that make it really easy to do while you “do” your own life. Next time you’re heading to the story, call her ………….

Helping is Not Always Easy Oct23

Helping is Not Alway...

I found these keys on my walk to work this morning. The only identifier was the Ralph’s card. There were a lot of keys on this key chain and someone was seriously bumming out. I could feel their annoyance at themselves and the frustration of having to replace all those keys. So I picked...

7 Ways to Build Your Helping Chutzpah Sep22

7 Ways to Build Your...

  My friend has cancer and … it’s not going well. She’s doing an experimental treatment. She doesn’t have enough energy to return to work. She’s worried about running out of money and health insurance. I feel stuck because I don’t know what to do to help her! I am suffering from a lack...

Three Reasons To Accept Help If You Have Cancer Aug27

Three Reasons To Acc...

You have cancer— you need help. But accepting help is hard. It requires: That you admit that you can’t do it all. That you be able to think about, and list the kind of help you need (knowing what you need is a big hurdle). That you let go of the feeling that you are a burden if you ask for...

9 Ways To Make On Pu...

Making great memories as an adult takes concerted effort.  Work, family and emails get in the way of connecting.  Penciling in one-on-one time is challenging, but your friend has cancer dammit – the extra effort is worth it. Remember– as hard as it is to admit, cancer is life threatening ...

Dear Survey Monkey S...

Dear Survey Monkey Staff, How are you all doing? It’s been just over 90 days since Dave died. Three months. That’s not a long time.  I know you miss him.  How many times in the past months have you thought “When Dave gets back, I’ll…”  Or “I have to remember to tell Dave about this...

IT’S HERE!!!

After crowding, being professionally edited twice and over 25 design revisions my book, 100 Acts of Love: A Girlfriend’s Guide to Loving Your Friend through Cancer or Loss in now on sale! Order now and save $2 off!  The book will ship to you late next week! If I sell 300 copies before...